I was up at the crack of dawn today...well, earlier than that! Just a lot of things going through my mind. Crazy work week ahead, Chris had a Bad Day yesterday so I was uneasy about if he'd be able to go to school today, but he seemed good and left the house with a smile. What a trooper he is.....
Grace sprained her ankle yesterday evening running around the 'hood. So she had a bad wake up this morning....And a little fight with her neighborhood friend while hobbling to school. UGH, Monday. Tears before 8am is never good!
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then, my Alison came home from a sleepover yesterday and dropped a bit of a surprise on us. She had tagged along with her friend and her mom to an Open House at St. Joseph's Academy (all girls Catholic high school). She fell in love with it. Immensely. I have never seen such excitement and energy radiate from her! She came running in the house with all these papers and brochures, bounding around looking for us...and asked me to sit down with her so she can 'talk about this'.
She had called me earlier in the day to ask if she could go along to this Open House and then come home after that. I was at the grocery store, and quite honestly, it did not really register with me WHERE she was going. I just heard 'with Rosie and her mom, St. Joe's....home after' and I absently said 'sure honey that's fine see ya later'. My mind was on Chris, what to make for dinner, catching up on housework etc.
So I sat down at the kitchen table with her, and she started talking. She had such great things to say, I was so impressed with her perspective. She says St. Joe's is 'so much better than Fairview'. I asked her to explain what makes her think this. She went on to very animatedly point out the school's mission statement, which 'says it all' Alison claims.
"We encourage each student to develop positive values and to articulate her thinking so that she can be a leader making constructive contributions to society. We endeavor to nurture the talents of each young woman so she becomes a woman of faith with global perspective who is striving for integrity and preparing for life'"MOM" she says, "Fairview doesn't CARE about developing my CHARACTER, they just want us to make the grades to make our school rank well enough on the stupid state report card so the parents will vote for levys'.
????What????? What 13 year old has that kind of (somewhat accurate) perspective? She goes on to say:
"I would have so much more
enrichment opportunities at St. Joe's than I would EVER get at Fairview. " Her example was how her 8th grade DC class trip was cut due to funding cuts, but at St. Joe's, she will have some sort of trip every year....annual retreats, trip to NYC, overseas trip as a senior....
Oh and then there is the 'block scheduling' that is set up in college schedule format, which she explained thoroughly to me. Four classes each semester, each class like 80 minutes long, so there is more opportunity for the teachers to use interactive teaching methods - rather than rushing to fit a lesson in to a 38 minute period. AND, it prepares them for college schedules as well. This was new to me, I did not know high schools do this, and well...it makes a lot of sense to me!
How did she feel about wearing a uniform?
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It would be so much easier than the stress of trying to be 'fashionable' every day'No Boys?
' Half the DRAMA with my friends has to do with immature boys, so I wouldn't mind not having to deal with THAT. I would still have plenty of chances to hang out with boys, they just won't be in my FACE every day'(Her dad LOVED that comment)
Leaving all your friends after 8, 9 years, starting with all new girls?
'I'm not really concerned about making new friends, that's easy mom.'Yes, Alison is an independent, smart, intuitive, talented and energetic young girl with a strong drive to be challenged and to enjoy new experiences. How did I miss this? The thought has never entered my mind that she may be wanting/searching for a different direction as she enters high school? I feel guilty sometimes because we (have to) give so much attention to Chris and his needs....I easily forget that Alison has needs too of a different sort. She
needs to be stretched. It never ocurred to me that our public high school would not fulfill all her needs other than the basic college prep education.
So....we agreed to sign up for the entrance/placement exam on November 8th. No choice really, as that is the last test date where she can be considered for tuition aid based on her test results. We will also start to apply for other need and merit-based aid because that is all due by the end of November! If she can get enough financial assistance to bring the tuition (*gulp*) down to a more manageable monthly payment, we will let her do it if she feels strongly about it. But I told her she still has to think very hard about this. Because of application and testing deadlines, we have to move forward with some things, but it does
not mean she is officially going. She is also going to schedule a 'shadow day' soon too so she can spend a day at the school soon. I told her this is not a decision to make in one day based on one happy visit to the school - that I have not even seen yet.
The tuition is unbelievable outrageous! She has the grades and merit to get
some assistance (I hope), need-based, who knows if we 'qualify' for that. We FEEL like we should ha! But most likely we won't...
This is one of those 'life moments' where we hope we make the right decision. Will this be a good investment toward's Alison's future? Absolutely. Will we have to make some sacrifices in order to get her this opportunity? OHHHHH YEAH...it just makes me nervous, in today's economy, trying to squeeze out that extra cash. When she can get a perfectly 'good' education at our public high school. Sometimes it's hard to be a parent!
I do have one running related mention for today...my official results were posted online today - UGH UGH UGH! It says 37:50!!!! What? My average pace was supposedly 12:12. What? Not once when I looked at my Garmin was I ever over a 11:50 pace! Can there be such a discrepancy between my watch and a race clock?
I guess I don't really care - I thought about calling but, it's not a big deal. It was my first race and the time does not matter, but it sort of changes my psyche a little? I have run that distance twice in training and did not work as hard as I did during the race, and finished better than 37 minutes both times. So I just don't get it. I can't imagine it took me 4 minutes to get to the start line...I am stumped!